Invalidating your feelings
This may be done by denying, minimizing, ridiculing, ignoring, or judging the other’s feelings or perceptions.
Regardless of the means, the effect is clear: the other person’s feelings are judged as “unimportant” or “wrong.” Invalidation can take many forms.
Why did my boyfriend say he's lost interest but then change his mind?
If I’m “over reacting” it’s because I’m reacting to a whirlwind of emotions that are tearing me up from the inside out.
The poem above was recently posted on the Facebook page for the mental health charity SANE, by Michael, a supporter of the charity.
It’s about the differences in how people react to mental and physical illness.
Many of the struggling marriages I’ve worked with have exhibited one or more of these negative behavior patterns.
Absolutely crucial, I believe, to the success of any marriage is for couples to minimize the occurrence these four negative behavior patterns from their relationships.
On one occasion, I’d dreamt that I was in the process of travelling to an appointment, and one moment I was in my car, and the next I was standing in front of a house.I see it every day in my psychotherapy office; and never more clearly than in the case of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).In CEN, the child is given a subliminal message, often inadvertently, that his/her emotions are irrelevant.Thoughts of a thoughtful 22 year old about everything that interests her... I found it to validate the way I've felt most of my life. I was told I was stupid or too slow for a class any number of times. Constant invalidation may be one of the most significant reasons a person with high innate emotional intelligence suffers from unmet emotional needs later in life.(1) A sensitive child who is repeatedly invalidated becomes confused and begins to distrust his own emotions. life/death, meaning, teaching, French, introversion/extroversion, Meyers-Briggs, love (what is love? He fails to develop confidence in and healthy use of his emotional brain-- one of nature's most basic survival tools.